Monte Levin never gets upset with his partner, Gary Lazarus, for working too much, nor does Gary get mad when Monty spends weekend time at the office. The couple understands the demands of each other’s jobs because they work together as a team selling homes in South Florida.
Living and working together for 20 years could be a formula for disaster, but the two have a method for surviving the togetherness: “You have to negotiate your own space and know what each person needs to do to decompress,” Levin says.
While every couple is different, same-sex couples have an advantage in blending their two spheres successfully. A 2015 survey by the Families and Work Institute of 225 dual-earner couples found that, for the most part, same-sex couples share household duties and financial management based on preference and split child care equally. They tend to be happier with the division of labor because they communicate about it more often. “It is much more consciously discussed and negotiated,” says Jennifer Allyn, managing director of diversity for PricewaterhouseCoopers, which commissioned the survey. In contrast, straight couples tend to slip into roles at home based on gender, income, hours worked or power position in the relationship — which sometimes can lead to resentment.
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